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Heal psychologically: Accept the past, embrace the present, rewrite the future

01 November 2021 11:00 am - 1:00 pm
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‘I am going to succeed and then I will show them’. With that mind set success is possible, but it can remain empty.

Healing psychologically enables us to create a strong emotional and mental foundation for recovery and growth and when we achieve, we do so with a sense of fulfilment.

Although the presenter focuses on the aspect of thriving and flourishing (using resilience building tools to do so), and practitioner psychologists focus on the element of ‘cure’ - we are not yet living in the space between ‘cure’ and ‘flourish’– that space is healing.

It is possible to learn to manage issues that may have developed over time – we can reflect on them, we can learn about them, we can understand our reactions and develop coping/emotional regulation strategies, decision making skills and even have external intervention (such as  somatic/drug therapy) to help us get back to ‘okay’.

Similarly, we can learn what makes us happy, we can springboard off the changes we had to make at the point of crisis, and we can develop the conditions to flourish.  Not only that, but these same energisers, these tools of ‘joy’ can help buffer ensuing stressors and make relapse (if we have suffered) less likely, and they can empower us to know we can cope in future. In the same way our voice can ‘break’ as we switch from chest to head, there is something missing – and that is the formal and voiced need to heal.

The presenter has reached this understanding through an ‘Informal’ grounded theory reflection on a number of interviews conducted as a radio host with guest experts.  What is different about the interviews is that experts are asked for their professional tips and tools for the listener, but are also asked to share personal stories. While the act of doing this is in order to raise awareness of the issues and talk about how there can be all sorts of psychological upheaval on the inside of a well-put together expert, one thing that was not expected was how many of them said they were so glad to be able to talk about it because they didn’t tall very much to their families (protecting them), and some of their friends wouldn’t talk about it for fear of not knowing what to say. They all found the discussion healing.  Talking about something that they had learned to manage (practitioner psychology), and realising that the changes and adaptations they made brought them to the thriving life they have right now (positive psychology/flourishing) – they were beginning to bridge a gap.

It is possible to be well, and it is possible to grow beyond that, but if we do not take time to heal, if we do not take time to be angry or to be reflective or to be more aware of what our emotions are saying to us that we can unconditionally love ourselves just for being…and while we are of real value – we might still hold resentment, we might never feel we can even get to ‘okay’.

Healing is an emotional process focused on:

  1. Building unconditional self-worth (sometimes this can be done through inner-child work, or understanding attachment theory, or introspection) – but then we need to go beyond that to take action to make the mindset shifts we need (practical exercises will be given here)
  2. Recognising our value – not in comparison to others, not because we’ve ‘achieved’ – but because we have as much right to ‘be’ as anyone else…not looking to others to validate us, knowing that ‘who we are – speaks for itself’ (practical exercises will be given here)
  3. Self-compassion tools (along with self-care) – this goes back to resilience building/positive psychology approach to creating: Flow (meaning); finding purpose; and having healthy relationships (and tools to develop those aspects) – not in comparison to others (for example self-esteem building) – we need to learn to speak kindly to ourselves at the time when we are not succeeding
  4. Finding ways to express ourselves (talking is not for everyone, and certainly for many, not at the start of the process) – but we do need to find a way of getting those emotions out – if nothing else so we can free our mind to make the next decision
  5. Taking positive action  - not a Law of attraction thing, but we can get too caught up with overthinking (which is a bit like over training – if we were looking at this physically) and this can actually keep us stagnant (in the same way as over-training can result in injury needing rest).   So we also need to focus on what can be controlled and what we can do for ourselves.  We need to focus on how spending too much time in what went wrong can mean we never reach our full potential in flourishing because we are always resentful, or we might not even take action.  This element is the crux of healing.  We need to look at who we are now, embrace ourselves, forgive ourselves, and dare to keep going. Again, practical tools around this is key.

A workbook will be sent out to everyone before the webinar so they can reuse or revisit it subsequently to continue the process started in the workbook.

Target audience

This webinar is for anyone who wants to work on their own personal development, or seek practical ways to apply psychological theory to their own work or for their clients.

It is suitable for seasoned professionals who have overcome personal issues but everyone will benefit. It will be useful for those in their early career to be more self-aware now, and potentially focus on their clients being able to heal as well as ‘manage’ or ‘flourish.

It would help if you have an interest in positive psychology and thriving because this webinar is not about fire-fighting at the point of crisis it is about making a commitment to our mental health.

This webinar will be recorded and made available as a recording for everyone who registers.

Take a look at a Q&A session with Audrey Tang interviewed by our journalist team for the Psychologist magazine.

Learning Outcomes

  1. Practical exercises for self-worth, self-compassion, recognising our value unconditionally (just in being (and sometimes even at the point of failure) – not having to succeed to be worthy, expressing ourselves in a transformational way, taking positive action.  I will offer ways we can heal our feelings of conditional value – even if we don’t have a crisis to come through, we can still build our self-worth
  2. Exploring your personal views and the idea that as psychologists we may need to convince others that psychology and mental health is essential to overall flourishing, before we can expect people to take a break at the point of crisis, much less include mental and emotional strength building into everyday life
  3. Creating a new narrative around wellbeing practice so that we, and our clients, begin to see it as a daily commitment to build mental and emotional strength (as one might physical strength) before the point of crisis. In doing so you (and your clients) can: Build a buffer to the 21st century roller coaster so we can better withstand the pressures, or seek help when we need it, Return to a state of equanimity (calm) faster, Have more headspace to enjoy life to the full.
  4. Exploring the notion that if we (and many of us also help others to) recover and then grow, if we also work on healing, the pathway to recovery and growth may become smoother.

Presenter: Dr Audrey Tang CPsychol

Audrey is a Chartered Psychologist and award-winning author featuring on Channel 4’s “Don’t Diet Lose Weight”.  She is the resident psychologist on…and is the resident psychologist on The Chrissy B Show (Sky) the UK's only TV programme dedicated to mental health and wellbeing and a presenter and wellness advocate fronting "Psych Back to Basics" on Disruptive TV. She regularly offers expert comment as a psychologist through TV, Radio and published media on mental wellness, and broadcasts self-development podcast "Retrain Your Brain".  A member of the International Positive Psychology Association (IPPA), she keynotes at National and International conferences in the fields of resilience, leadership and team cohesion, is a CPD accredited trainer and FIRO-B profiler, and regularly consults and hosts webinars & lectures offering accessible and effective practical self-improvement tools for personal and professional success.

A lot of what Audrey does is about putting theory into practice. Audrey is a teacher and one of the most important things for her is making research findings and applicable and offers practical tools in her area of expertise (which is wellbeing). With this, delegates can either adapt these tools for their own clients/classes, and/or they can use them themselves


Start: 11:00

Finish: 13:00

Price £80.00 (£ 66.67 + VAT)
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Please note:
1. Online bookings will close at 11:00 on the day of the webinar.

2. A Zoom link to join the webinar will be sent to everyone registered on the webinar day.

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There is a £15 cancellation fee.

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